Proper wedding attire.

I have no idea what I’m going to wear at the wedding.

Or, more annoying, I have two ideas about what to wear at the wedding, and can’t decide between them.

Also true: I have a slight preference for one option over the other, but still can’t pull the trigger.

Fortunately, I am responsible for very little else.


I’m finally starting to look at photographers, which is probably something I should have been doing a long time ago, but that’s beside the point. The problem is that we can’t find anyone in the area that is good AND in our price range. If anyone has any suggestions, please help us out!

I did stumble upon this photographer after doing some Googling, though: www DOT myfotographer DOT com (I don’t want to link there in case she gets offended). I can’t tell if it’s the photographer or her clients that are stuck in 1992.

I did something!

After seven months of nothing, I finally did something wedding related and bought my dress. It’s beautiful and perfect and everything I hoped it would be, but I can’t give any details. And it only took me one visit to a dress shop, and it was the fourth dress I tried on. I win at dress shopping!

My bridesmaids also picked out the dress that they’re going to wear (I gave them free range to get whatever they wanted), and I think it’s safe to post a picture of it:

With a bright yellow bouquet? Cute.

Now, I’ve got a dress and we’ve got a ceremony/reception site, and that’s it. We should prrrobably get on the ball.

Our anniversary!

One year ago today, Meaghan and I began “going steady,” in the parlance of our times. I drove down from New York, ran afoul of the Virginia Highway Patrol, and talked myself out of a summons. Now, there’s a good omen if there ever was one.

We’re still ten months out from the actual, you know, wedding. That initial flurry of activity to settle the big details is complete, so now it’s time to conveniently forget about the whole affair until it’s time for the ridiculous flurry of activity at the end. Oh, won’t you stay tuned for that?


No, I am seriously not even thinking about cakes right now, but I was directed to a blog yesterday called Cake Wrecks which I was promised would be hilarious. It’s a blog about professionally made cakes that are absolute disasters. I mean, some of them are really awesome and you can tell someone put a lot of time into them, but they’re still totally weird (Example: A cake made to look like a realistic baby. Who would want to cut that? And eat it?!). And some of them are cakes that I can’t believe people actually paid for, they were that bad.

Anyway, I found this post about a wedding cake.

This is a picture of the cake that the woman brought for the baker to recreate:

It’s a nice looking cake. Well made. I’m not really into the plaid but I guess that’s what she wanted.

This is the cake the baker presented her with:


My question is: Why did she actually put that out at her reception? She couldn’t get a pre-made cake from somewhere else at the last minute? Or did she think it’s as hilarious as I do?

Here’s the post on Cake Wrecks, and here’s the original post.

Officially official.

We have finally set a date and have booked the site for our wedding and reception! We decided against July 4th, because despite having the extra day off, some people probably don’t want to travel on a holiday weekend. And it was kind of gimmicky. Then the next weekend was July 11th, which would be 7-11, which reminds me of the convenience store, so no (no need to tell me I’m ridiculous, I already know). So we set the date for the next weekend, which is July 18th, 2009. Mark it on your calendars, folks.

The site that we ended up choosing was the Barn at Valhalla in Chapel Hill. It’s gorgeous and perfect and many other positive adjectives, and I’m so excited! Here’s the address:

9423 Charles Ln
Chapel Hill, NC 27516

I’ll also post the address under the “The Wedding” page so that you won’t have to dig around to find it in the future.

So, that’s one thing to cross off the list. I’m so glad I got at least one thing finished on time!

A quick question.

So, Scott and I had set a tentative date for June 20th, 2009, but I’m going to have to take a Spanish class that doesn’t end until June 24th. And I don’t want to get married while I’m still in school. And then we were thinking about June 27th, but do I really want to get married the same week I’m taking exams? No, too stressful. So we thought about the NEXT weekend, which happens to be July 4th.

My question is; do you think that’s a good idea? I mean, it’s definitely a memorable date, and everyone who is coming in from out of town will have a day off of work that they could use to travel. And we could have fireworks! And nothing goes better with fireworks than barbecue. But then again, a lot of people like to go to the beach and things like that on July 4th, and I don’t want to mess up anyone’s plans. (Even though my wedding is going to be more awesome than anything else. Just saying.) And who knows if the owner of the reception site will even let us have fireworks?

So, there are the pros and cons. If you can think of any more, let me know. And tell me what you think!

And no, I wouldn’t change the wedding colors to red, white, and blue.

That would explain why I’ve never met a pleasant notary.

Meaghan and I have someone in mind to perform our wedding ceremony, but they’re not an ordained minister. (We want to have someone we know, and neither of us are interested in a religious service.) The laws about who can perform a marriage vary state by state — I’m performing a wedding for friends in Maryland this weekend by the power vested in me by an Internet church, but the laws in North Carolina are a bit more strict.

I was chatting with my younger brother this evening while I was driving home, and he thought it might be legal for a notary public to perform a wedding. He did a little bit of the Google, and came up with this:

In North Carolina is it legal for a notary public to marry someone? - Yahoo! Answers

I don’t think anywhere in America are notary publics required to stay single. Like anyone else, if they fall in love with someone, they’re allowed to marry.

Internet saves the day again. (And no, a notary public can’t perform a wedding. We already know how we’re going to work around all of this.)

A photo with a dead Scandinavian man.

Ben Moser made my week.

If she loves you enough to take your picture when you’re in that getup, that’s considerable. If she loves you enough to pose for a picture with you in that getup, that’s remarkable. If she loves you enough to pose for a picture with you in that getup and then posts said picture online in a place her friends are most definitely going to see it, then you hold on tight and never let go. You marry her.

Ain’t that the g.d. truth.

I have chosen my tuxedo.